You never say things you love about me except my looks and how good a mother I am.
translated "Keep telling me things you love. I feel good when you do this. "
Notice and verbalize the things you appreciate (in addition to the mother and her looks)
When she looks hot: You say "You have a good sense of style. You look stunning in that outfit" (appreciate the effort she went though)
This part jumped out at me too. I am not your W but I can say that as a woman, I love to be appreciated for who I am outside my looks and my mothering skills (though those are nice things to hear too). One of my major LL are words of affirmation and for me, a compliment isn't just about praise, but about feeling known in a deep and intimate way - that something less obvious about me than how I look or the role I perform in the family has been seen and known and cherished.
I don't mean this as criticism at all - only as some feedback and hope it helps in your situation.
