I wish you a good night's sleep. I am about to go to bed with the audiobook myself. It's a crime thriller - you'd not think that was conducive to restful sleep - but it is gripping enough to distract my whirring mind for a while until I start dozing and I will take any healthy distraction I can get.
I totally identify with what you are saying about the domestic stuff and cupboards and wardrobes etc. When H left, he took one large suitcase and some files and papers that he needed for his work. He's picked up a few small things since then, but basically all his things are still here - clothes in the wardrobe, shoes in the hall, coat on the rack. Most of his toiletries were in the bathroom until about a week ago when I moved them into one of his bedside drawers, but that's the only thing I've moved. I feel weird about it. I mean - he doesn't want to live here - so I should be able to take ownership of my space and he should be responsible for collecting and storing his own belongings, right? But they aren't really doing me any harm (he's not a hoarder and the stuff isn't getting in my way - it just makes me sad) and I guess if I cleared it all out or boxed it away it would send a message that I am not sure I want to send right now. I am also - as you know from my thread - a bit scared still about making him angry. So I have just left everything where it is right now. Where he is staying is tiny and temporary (he is lodging) and I guess I don't want to prompt him into a more permanent situation if I don't have to.
Did you take away your H's things? He has his own place, right - somewhere fairly permanent? I know you're in a real limbo situation and it is hard to know what the right thing is to do for yourself and the R.
