Ok, this. This just allowed me to confront the problem with my own emotions: I'm not trying to "get" something when I express emotions.
I like the snowplow and spike metaphor too. I think you are saying in essence, when we feel that others don't hear us, we scream. When our emotions are ignored, we magnify them. I can relate to all of this and see so much of what contributed to our downfall. Obviously not the initial cause, but lead to the snowball effect.
So what did you do to make the volume of your emotions serve your needs but also not weaponize them for others?
