Likely other man is not a branch she can completely jump to in order to support her weight. Either because he can't (married, not leaving his W, not financially able, etc). We have a saying around her, a monkey will only leap from their branch if they have identified another branch that can support them. IE, it sounds like Plan A is starting to fall apart.
He is married but separated. From my understanding, he does not make a lot of money (she has told me this when she broke the news of meeting him). Also, he does not appear to have good credit based on some simple court documents that I was able to find where he owes for two heart attacks he has had from when he did a lot of cocaine when he was 18/19 years old (WW told me way too much about him when she was drunk that one night). Also he has problems down there so I have a nickname for the SOB. Limp D if you know what I mean.
She knows she is stuck. I won't bring up anything. If she says anything about R or moving or leaving or whatever, I will say you do what you need to do.
I understand about kicking her out or saying she needs to leave. If she brings it up, about stepping back from the OM, etc. Can I say that if you continue to do be with the OM, then I will ask you to move out and be firm at that point? Can I ask what she meant by stepping back or whatever? Give her this ultimatum of that she can live here if she wants to work on the M with no third party involvement, but if not then she will need to find her own place?
