You posted while I was typing out mine. So, FWIW, you can look back to see my thoughts.
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"She indicated that she wanted to let me know that she is taking a step back actually a few steps back from OM. Nothing to deal with her and I but she needs it for herself because she is just feeling more stressed about everything and she needs to focus on herself. So if that helps me at all" - her text
Stepping back from OM? That's rich! There is no "stepping back". An affair is like pregnancy.......you are or you aren't, there's no such thing as being a little pregnant. At the moment, she is telling you so much b.s.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
