I think people are much more interested in your story than you think. You have over 5,000 views on this thread!
I'm feeling nosy in regard to your posts (but of course you have no obligation to answer anything).
Just wondering how ExOM is dealing with this relationship between you and H. As I recall, he was trying to push you out the door and engaging an attorney, etc.
Also whether ExOM completed the transition and if so did that negatively affected the relationship with your H (I had the impression that you thought at one point that it might).
Trying to imagine people who are self-aware enough to communicate like you guys do. It is so foreign to me. I'm wondering if I would be capable of being in a relationship with that much communication, boundary setting, and focus on needs. I sometimes think I ended up with an emotionally unavailable person because I am myself emotionally unavailable. I also wonder whether I want to be more emotionally available at this point.
Too often in life we are focused on our points of difference, but at heart we all want to be happy and loved. Your story teems with those qualities.
