I feel like I had to shut so many of my emotional circuit breakers off in order to survive the divorce and the Lion's Share of them have not been flipped back on yet.
Yeah I hear you, I'm not sure you ever flip them all back on after D. My walls were at maybe 5% while married, 100% after BD and probably 50% with my GF even this long after D. I just don't know they'll ever be lower than 50%. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing though.
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To further complicate things ex-wife has been very chatty and uncharacteristically interested in what's going on in my life, seems to take any opportunity she can to bring up Mary, and has found some reason to text me pretty much every day for the past 2 weeks.
Sounds like a temp check. I'm curious why you say that "complicates" things?
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We actually had to see each other face-to-face for the first time in over a year last week, I was fully expecting that to prompt a very strong emotional response and it did not.
So what was the situation where you ended up seeing each other after so long? I know what you mean though, being around my XW now is almost like being around an aunt I don't see much. Like it's someone I'm familiar with and feel a family connection to, but there's no emotional feelings there.
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I will say that since that occasion she has been a lot more communicative with me. I just answer her questions when she asks them, play nice and move on with my day.
You might remember the story I tell of my buddy who split with his W and similar to you didn't see her or talk to her for over a year. Then she started reaching out which led to conversations over coffee, and then dates, and now they are back together. That was exactly how it started though, she just started reaching out to him by text for seemingly unimportant stuff. I'm not saying she's trying to reconnect, but it does seem like a temp check.
