Hamburg, I notice such a vast change in you since you started posting. You are healing even though you have to go through this horrible fire.
I agree so much with Gordie -- I always agree with Gordie! And Job's idea to get them things that are special just to your house makes it even better.
I would involve them in that -- you can say that you want them to pick out stuff to keep at your house because it's their home and they don't have to bring suitcases to their own home. Spend a Saturday shopping for things. You have something that a lot of us LBS's don't, to help with some of the pain, that that is a big budget! I have often thought how much easier this would all be on my kids if I could take them fun places or get them things they really need/want, but my sitch has caused dire financial woes, as my H hasn't contributed since BD over five years ago. So use what you got -- your big heart and a little extra cash. Your W is not thinking of anything but her own comfort at drop-off, she is willing to weaponize your kids to get what she wants. All it reveals is how desperate she is not to face the pain she is causing all of you. But you can keep being the wonderful Hamburg that you are.
Last edited by Gerda; 03/05/1902:26 PM.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
