So, I am trying to show her I am not that angry, controlling person anymore. Why is this so difficult? I wish I could just get mad and put my feelings aside and me able to move on.
Are you trying to SHOW HER that you arent angry and controlling?
Or are you trying to not BE angry and controlling?
I think there is an important distinction, even if it is just how you talk about yourself.
Frame your thinking around YOU. That way you can feel successful even if she isnt giving you positive feedback.
