Steve, that reply is opening up my eyes. ovrrnbw, after calming down and sleeping on it, it does make sense. Especially after hearing from you and Steve. This is a 180 of mine. I used to be impulsive and reply right away. I am now deciding to calm down and be level headed before responding or discussing these items. I will talk to her today and be calm.
Steve, I like the idea of accepting separation or D and just being there for the kids. After her text and not responding, I just played dominos with my three children as she tucked herself into her room. Her and I will just go in our rooms and shut the door from time to time. But that is not me. I like playing with the kids and doing things around the house. It keeps my mind from going crazy and such. I will make this a change. I can still read but I can read after the kids go to bed.
I will start to be more self confident around the house. I will have struggling days, I will have good days. I need to focus on getting out more. Taking the kids out more. Having fun. Doing things. Stop letting her moods or actions impact me. It is very hard. I still am focusing too much on the relationship and not enough on me or me and the kids. I feel better playing games with the kids too. We are laughing and having fun doing it. I just need to emotionally detach from her even though I still care about her.
I also usually am the cooker at the house. The kids have been eating a lot of processed food lately like pizza rolls and other not so healthy meals. It felt good cooking them fresh food for a change. I need to get back to that to get them to feel it being at least normal for them. Shows I am moving on with my life.
