Also, i refuse to remove anyone out of my current life situation right now.
Wow, so she is actually saying she'll stay at home and be roommates, but she refuses to leave OM. Anthony, read through TXHubby's threads if you want to see how that scenario will probably play out. She will continue to get more and more defiant and you will just keep getting more miserable until you finally get sick and tired of it and make a stand. I would suggest you make the stand now rather than later. Tell her that her staying while continuing to date OM is not an option, therefore she must go. Period. I think that's how you're leaning anyway so this would be consistent with what you've been telling her.
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I’m too emotionally brittle right now. I just can’t do it. It’s keeping me afloat from completely losing it. We are on a break right now and need to focus on ourselves so that’s what we should be focusing on.
Well sure that's true, except she isn't focusing on herself, she's focusing on OM.
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Once we feel more stable on both ends I feel confident we will be able to figure things out and make the best decision.
This is a blatant tactic to "dangle the carrot" and give you some hope so you will give her what she wants. Don't believe it for a second.
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I can deal with staying here under the same roof. I need you to figure out what you can handle and keep that agreement. If we decide to live here together it needs to be amicably or else there is no point to any of this.
Some of what she is saying is reasonable, EXCEPT living amicably would mean NO OM and she's already said that's not an option.
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You may be mad at me right now but I am still guarded and hurt too. I am doing what I need to do to keep from completely breaking apart and upturning this household.
That sounds like a veiled threat- "give me what I want or there will be hell to pay."
She's a wayward and there's no negotiating with a wayward. It's "my way or the highway" tactics. You might want to type out your planned response here so we can review and comment.
