TJT, there's a lot in your post. I like the positives that you've pulled out from the past few weeks. That you know you can find someone again, that you feel confident in moving forward with your D. Those are good.
But I just don't see anything bad about what this guy is doing. I mean sure it totally [censored]. Absolutely. But with three weeks into a R no matter HOW much you click - it sounds like he made the right choice for him, and you can't fault that. If he got a great job he really couldn't just dismiss it.
In your writing it sounds like you're living in a lot of fear with being alone. Three weeks in and already seeing a LTR is very, very fast. Three weeks is limerence - despite him being a great guy.
I know it [censored] right now to be alone. But I really think you need to bravely face this time period as a single person.
Not what you want to hear right now, but please consider.
