just need to write down a few things. We had MC last week, it went ok. W is still far behind me in terms of learning things, and I am trying to be patient in regards to that.
W's family is still too much in our business. I talked to a guy I snowplowed with, who works for FIL's best friend, and he mentioned getting paid on the last snow, which I plowed with them on. I haven't gotten paid yet, but apparently the check is sitting at FIL's house. But he's going to withhold some money for me and W's phone bill. I don't think W has been paying it for a long time. So that's annoying as hell. Then I needed help last week on the office build out and W was up my rear about getting FIL out there to help. FIL comes out, isn't very interested, and takes off. W is mad at me when I told her "I got the impression he didn't want to do it". But he didn't and I know he didn't, so no big deal. In the past he would have been all over this, but the inlaws are W's parents and they want to see me as the problem. Then I called around to find a carpenter to help me, all of whom know FIL. W's uncle called back and agreed quickly to help me. Then FIL tells W to tell me how much to pay him. And while FIL had a good point, it really pissed me off that he wanted to not be involved but still be involved.
I'm getting my office space remodeled and up and running, and that's taking up a lot of my time. The new gig will be great though. Friday was my official first day, I really wanted to go out and celebrate, but then that was kinda not so exciting b/c I have the depressed/MLC/quarter life crisis/wayward wife. We went out to dinner and that was OK. Saturday was busy, had some office work, helped W with some stuff, went out hunting and watched some fights Sat night. Sunday I stayed in all day and cleaned up the house and split firewood. Luckily W was plowing snow with FIL and didn't get home til late Sunday.
Last night she suggested that I should have slept in the other bedroom b/c I went to bed at about 1:30 AM and she had to wake up at 2:30. I was like nope that's why I sleep. I only mention this b/c it is very odd. And then tonight, W gets home and basically goes straight to the bedroom, said she wasn't hungry, then got a plate and went back to the bedroom saying she doesn't feel good.
I need to go read DR again about dealing with the depressed spouse. I need to get out a GAL more. I need to stop tying my happiness to what she is doing. I had a couple ups and downs today, very brief, but I kept telling myself that I need to go do things that make me happy. Tomorrow night I may go try the hot yoga. Thanks for reading.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
