Only you can make the decision of when it is time to let go and move on. I do think you should take what KML says re disease issues very carefully. I was told some STDs can only be tested through a pelvic exam; I'm sure KML can confirm that or give you more light on it.
I have had to stop drawing lines in the sand for myself. It just isn't a good way to live. Instead I just try to move forward for me and the kids and take each day as it comes to me. Most days I don't think I would ever give my H another chance, but then other days I see a glimmer of something and say, well maybe, but I still doubt it. But I am not waiting for him. I give greater odds to my deciding I don't want anyone, or meeting someone who hasn't lied to me, cheated on me, and walked away from his kids.
The important thing is to live now. To stop waiting. To stop feeling all this letdown and disappointment. To stop being shocked by new discoveries and new lows. Honestly, I expect to hear mine has had threesomes, group orgies, gone to titty bars, slept with prostitutes, you name it. I don't have evidence of this stuff, but nothing is beyond the realm of possibility anymore. For the most part. I just don't care.
