Why don´t you take some TIME to decide lusa? I think this is the first time I get into your sitch. I´m sorry. I´m just trying to catch up with the forum.
I was a WWH. I think part of my mind still is (I heard you Blu). But I know it´s fantasy fueled. So I take it as that. Your W is pursuing a fantasy R with her XH. I know you have the right to stand for your goals, in fact you must do that. But I can´t avoid stating that you need to help W too. She needs to figure out what she wants and she must cut off her EA. GIve her that info and the chance to see you are not waiting for her anymore. Like Sandi said, you are not going to be her OM on her fantasy XH R.
Show W your light. She sees it. She must follow it too.
Release some anger, detach with love (you had nearly done it before) and show W your cards. Set W free.
Respect, hope and mercy. And love above all. Love for W, your kids and yourself.
