Is there an OM in the picture? Your W is clear that she wants a divorce?
If she has clearly stated she wants a divorce than I don't see a point in attending her bday party. Your W is still giving you crap about how she wishes you were truly separated, so why attend the party? Why not go GAL?
Someone fill me in if I'm missing something.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
