WAW says I'm the "perfect husband and partner"

[SteveLW]

Jamine, sorry you are here but welcome. Glad you found us.

My first comment is related to your title. NO ONE is perfect. Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. Think about it, if you were perfect she wouldn't be considering D. It is a way to let you down easy. Perfect spouses do not get BD'd twice in 6 months. Also, her callous way of telling you the second BD over Facebook is just full of disrespect.

You ask how you regain attraction? It starts by regaining respect. Let me ask you, does moving in with your parents engender respect? How about getting home from Asia, you move back into YOUR home.

When it comes to WAWs and WWs filing for divorce is ALWAYS in the future. Again, words and actions don't match. "It is over. I want a D." Then they drag their feet on actually filing. Not to give you false hope but a lot of time they are more interested in the glamour of getting a D and being single, rather than wanting to face reality of D and the process.

Here is my vote:

-Move back in once your Asia trip is over.
-Continue to work on detachment. Lisening to her and validating, but not giving in to her demands or defending yourself against her accusations.
-180 on any bad behavior. I know she says you were perfect. But what about 180ing on doing things that do not command respect? If you are willing to move on based on he demands, what else haven't you stood up for yourself over in your marriage? Remember, attraction=respect. You can't have attraction without respect. Demand respect by doing things that do so. Also, get a new haircut, get new clothes, start working out, go get a manicure and pedicure even!
-GAL. Keep it up. Move back in but then always be busy. Go out and have fun, meet new friends. You have no kids so this should be easy for you.

You've got this man. Yes you've made some mistakes. But you can correct them and turn this around. And at a minimum, even if you end up D'd, you can go into the next phase of your life with your head held high.