No more sex with him right? We have a few posters here e that contracted stds. One who needed a surgery or precedire for one of them. I have an acquaintance that contracted HIV from her husband and found out while she was pregnant.
What these people do is beyond irresponsible and selfish. it’s dangerous. And it’s dangerous cause you have a little girl to take care of. I know this is a marriage saving site, but I. don’t believe in saving marriages with people that put the health and welfare of people - especially the people that are sole carers of small children at risk.
Listen to your lawyers and do what’s best for you and your child. Take advantage of the fact that he legally wants you out of here. You have loving family and support in Europe? is the only reason you are staying where you are because you are trying to force a relationship between dad and daughter?
Your daughter is young. Supportive grandparents will help more then a dad that only sees her 2x a month. That was my situation. it’s the one thing I am so grateful for. I got bare minimum. But I also lay next to my son in bed and am just so grateful he didn’t value my beautiful boy and not having to give away time with my son is a huge gift.
In my situation, I didn’t find out till much later that ex had some sort of 700 dollar a week habit. He did to me similar to what your ex is doing to you, except I had no knowledge of an affair and he wasn’t trying to sleep with me. he just moved out completely.
It’s hard to handle right now because he has been gaslighting you. that’s the abuse but seems like you have good lawyers that are on top of it.
Now we have a very small percentage of posters that reconciled and it seems to last. But we also have a lot of return customers that post on here too. Meaning, they reconcile and then maybe 5 or 10 years later their spouses do the same thing again. Do you want to be here older and with a kid that’s okder and now understands what cheating is? This happens cause most of the cheating on my spouse and abandoning my kids happens by people that seek greener grass. They want a younger woman. then their spouse moves on and they want them back. maybe the younger woman dumped them. Or maybe they realize they don’t want to pay support and can just be quieter about their affairs. It’s easier to hide money that way too.
Right now your in a good position. Make decisions based on your best interest and your daughters best interest. Stop trying to make him have a relationship he doesn’t want with his daughter. that’s not good for your daughter either.
