Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

Update:

The MIL and the W's aunt were coming by this weekend to go to a festival near us and they spent the weekend here. On Thursday me and the W were supposed to do a deep clean of the house (the MIL & aunt are allergic to cats and we have a cat) well I had come home from work, made dinner, and the W suggested we watch a movie. So while I was cooking dinner I went out to have a cigarette (yea, I haven't been doing so well with quitting). The W came out with me and we were talking a bit. She had asked me what my plans were for Saturday and I said right now I don't have any. She then asked me if I'd like to come along with them to the festival. I said sure. Then she was talking about selling the boat, and that a friend was interested a while ago and she needed to reach out to him again. He was a friend of ours from high school, at that point of mentioning him she had shifted the topic to those times and all the good moments in our relationship. I really tried to not say much during this part of the conversation besides an occasional laugh, and the "yea I remember that". She was trying to initiate sex again, I was on the couch and the movie was over I leaned forward and she laid her head on my lap looking straight up at me and pressed me for it, then when we went in the room she then suddenly changed her mind, I said ok then good night and went on with going to sleep.

So on Friday I get home from work and the MIL was here, I was supposed to cook dinner but they instead wanted to go out to eat. The MIL treated us to Outback which was nice. When we got back home I went to get myself ready for bed. I went to the W and asked her if she still wanted me to come with them saturday so I could find out what time and all. She then said, "No, they changed the plans. They want to go out shopping, and might go later in the day if at all" So I said ok and went off to bed.

Now Saturday comes along and I started to just take care of some errands and things I needed to do. Well I end up finding out that they didn't go "shopping" they went "house shopping" for her. Which explains why the sudden change of mind of me coming along come in. She has not told me anything about this, which I am glad I found out because if she picked up and left I can't afford to move right now, and can't afford this place on my own. Neither can she, but she has her mother as a financial support system who will write her a check to move in a heartbeat, whereas I have no such system.

So right now, I am going to keep that I know she's looking for a place to myself and start preparing financially for that eventual BD that she's leaving. My plan is to try and get money together to payoff my 401k loan so I can take out another and get out of my truck payment to lower my vehicle payment and have money to move if/when it comes to it. Wish me luck