Hope my response to you about you and your W's past and how other people were involved didn't spook you into snooping or jumping into a panic. Apologies if I planted any seeds of doubt. When you initially commented on first BD, it was sorta touch and go and I am not one for having a false sense of security. It felt like you just knew that the issue of seeing other people hadn't worked itself back into the MR this time around, and I was asking to see what made you so sure. After you explained it and said you had tools in place, it made more sense. And honestly from all you've shared I didn't see your W as being WW or detect red flags in that regard. I think if the vets would have picked up on that, they would have dug into it early.
I feel the same way LH does. I think your W has truly given you another chance and you have a good shot to turn this around. Don't F it up.
Don't sabotage or become your worst enemy. Forward thinking. Lose the control.
if you have tools that allowed you to know what W was doing and you previously were using it, I don't see any issues with you having a normal routine of using whatever you have. Now if you are purposefully spying, then you are feeding your fear. As the protector, checking for blips on the radar every now and then, every few months or w/e hardly seems an issue.
I have high hopes for you.
Keep at it and keep posting. This way if you do anything questionable at this phase, like with the kissing on the neck or the initiating ILY, you get feed back appropriate for where you're at.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
