I believe it will be good if he "reclaims" his place in the MBR even if you say no. This is what we recommend here to the left behind spouses.
Did I read that right Ready2Change? You’re saying he should reclaim his place in the MBR even if I say no? Oh boy! Lol! That’s going to be a tough one. I don’t think he’s earned his right to the MBR, although it’s just as much his as it is mine.
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You can test his resolve. As a woman, I am sure you know ways to do this. At the end of it, I hope both of you are in MBR.
Whew! I’ll need to think on this. Ha!
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You also need a "path back" that is not easy for him. You should push him to say "What will it take!!" and then you respond: "You tell me"
You have words like these:
"I am not sure" "I am liking my freedom" "I need time to think about that"
Can you come up with more?
That’s good! I like that. Because I truly think he thinks it’s going to be easy.
I know it’s not right (so I hang my head in shame as I type this) but I want him to suffer. I want him to come home and be scared that it’s over. I want him to really feel like he’s finally lost me. I want him to feel the pain of that. Again, I know revenge isn’t right but man would it give me a temporary satisfaction. Lol!
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
