I believe it will be good if he "reclaims" his place in the MBR even if you say no. This is what we recommend here to the left behind spouses.

You can test his resolve. As a woman, I am sure you know ways to do this. At the end of it, I hope both of you are in MBR.


You also need a "path back" that is not easy for him. You should push him to say "What will it take!!" and then you respond: "You tell me"


You have words like these:

"I am not sure"
"I am liking my freedom"
"I need time to think about that"

Can you come up with more?



"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712