It sounds to me like you have this in hand. Working on yourself and moving forward towards what is good for you can't ever be a bad idea? And more experienced DBers who know your situation better will be able to give you better suggestions. I suppose the risk is that if you aren't willing to trust a little, and accept what small concrete actions he might be putting forward (and you're right - words aren't actions) then you and he will stay stuck where you are. I wish you well.
Thank you are so sweet. I’ll have to go read your sitch. It’s sad that we are all here but I’m grateful for this forum. It helps me so much.
I still love my H very much. Trust me when I say, I wish that I didn’t. I wish it was easier to walk away. But what I would need from him is consistency, honesty, effort, and transparency. That’s how you build trust.
The issues that we had in our M before he was abducted by the MLC aliens, can be resolved. However that will require consistent work from the both of us. I’ve been working on myself and my 180’s since last year. I’m not sure I can name one thing he’s worked on. I mean I guess I can give him credit for going to IC.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
