It sounds to me like you have this in hand. Working on yourself and moving forward towards what is good for you can't ever be a bad idea? And more experienced DBers who know your situation better will be able to give you better suggestions. I suppose the risk is that if you aren't willing to trust a little, and accept what small concrete actions he might be putting forward (and you're right - words aren't actions) then you and he will stay stuck where you are. I wish you well.
