That sounds really hard. I understand why you're feeling the way you are. It is hard to trust and probably not that helpful to have hope in a situation like this.
Maybe as he is away you have the time and space to think about what actions from him would make a difference to you? I have read on other people's threads (I am still very new here) that starting small is best. Would him phoning a MC himself and making a first appointment without you asking him to do it be meaningful to you?
If he called and booked us an appointment with a MC himself, I would be SHOCKED! However, that would at least show me that he’s trying. Don’t suggest MC and then leave it up to me to book an appointment.
I think I’m just so tired of all this that I’m starting to just get numb to things. I’m hoping Ready2Change can give me some tips but when he gets back, I’m going to continue to do things that show I’m moving on. He needs to do some serious work to show me he wants this M. Like I need to see some real effort. He also needs to be ready to work hard and know things won’t be fixed over night. I get the sense from him that he thinks things will fall back into place pretty fast. He’s sadly mistaken. I’ve had a lot of time to sit and reflect on our situation and there won’t be any quick fixes.
I haven’t called him once since he’s been away. He’s called me several times. I’ve answered one call, returned one call, and let the other go to VM. One day he called and I waited 3 hours before I sent him a text message back. The two times I’ve spoken with him, I rushed off the phone. I wanted to be the first to end the conversation.
His mom called me yesterday and was wondering what was going on with him. She said he seems different. I didn’t tell her our business. They have a strained relationship.
His best friend also called me yesterday, he was supposed to go in the guys gone wild trip but had something come up and couldn’t go. He called me to check on me and see if I needed anything. I thought that was sweet but told him, I’m good.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
