It must be so hard - to thaw and make some 180s on some distancing behaviour while at the same time not chasing. I teared up a bit reading about how happy he was to see you. That's the kind of thing I really miss, and the kind of thing I want to ask H for - but it isn't the kind of thing you can request, you just have to, I guess, do your little bit in creating the conditions for it to happen, then waiting to see if it does.
You have been so patient. Do you have a sense that things are moving towards you living together again and starting to piece? Do you have a mental kind of deadline for that, or are you willing to wait as long as it takes, or are you taking it one day as it comes?
In my situation, there is a kind of built in deadline as I know when H's big work project finishes. I suspect he might feel, as that time gets closer, the pressure of finishing the project as well as the pressure of me wanting a decision or movement or R from him immediately afterwards. And I can't help what he is feeling, though I don't want to add to that built-in pressure so I am wondering if the best thing I can do right now is not mention it, but give myself some kind of internal deadline after which I will stop attempting to 'connect' with him and encourage and support him, and just go dark completely.
