Brave Little Gerda Faces the Cutting Winds

[Gerda]

I want you to sit quietly and think about what I have written.

Job, I will do that. But i honestly have no idea what I am being stubborn about unless you mean that I don't want a divorce. I don't really address any issues with him (telling him or asking him) except once in a while when I post about it here. Mostly we are just roommates and he is often gone. When I consider what all my friends advise me to do in this situation, I feel like I am overall quite kind and patient with him.

I think what I was asking you about was more about how to go dark in this situation. I don't know how to carve out some head space for myself so that I can heal, let alone sit quietly and think about what you or anyone has written. I was looking for a really practical explanation of how to do that based on the current living situation in a fairly small apartment.