I think about my dad. He is a loyal husband, likes to go places, responsible, frugal, put my mother first. . But also yelled a lot about stupid things and was not outgoing or fun. Pretty negative as well. Yet he made a good partner amd family man. He once complained about my moms cooking and she threw his literal plate in the garbage and then he never complained again. Always was careful about what he said to her. At point being, that I know people have positives and negatives. But too many negatives are no good. Poor treatment of another is no good either. They also grew into their relationship from when they were young. They raised a family together.
Dating when your young and you already have kids is different. You have to think about what you are introducing your kids to. Your separate in finances, not sharing things as a family as you have to think about each of your own children. There’s a different dynamic to start with. Your not building a life with someone like my parents did, your sharing a life with someone and that feels different.
