Some of us had pretty lousy spouses and yet we were still dumped by them (vs us being the one to choose to end the bad relationship). It makes perfect sense to want to be with someone who is the opposite of our ex’s. But just because they are the opposite of what we had before, doesn’t mean they are the perfect partner.
And in no way shape or form am I placing judgement or opinion on your situation at all. Your rationale and justifications for being with him are good. I am projecting here as I’ve thought a lot about what I want in a long term partner. I often waffle between knowing what’s on my list of non negotiables and engaging with someone just because he has qualities that demonstrate he’s not the same as my ex. (And I have to temember, at one point I loved certain traits about my ex). So.... maybe he’s different and “better” and the relationship is more fulfilling and reciprocal than what you had before, but is it what you want?
Just food for thought.
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
