There are things I love about him, or this would not be hard... He puts family and loved ones first, over his job. That means a lot because it was the opposite of my ex husband. Like I know if I had any type of medical issue he would put it first. (My ex did not come to any of the md appts or US of my last pregnancy. When I had to induce an abortion cause the fetus heart beat stopped, he went to work the day I did it and when I called him terrified that the dr made a mistake he got annoyed with me for bothering him at work) I know bf would never be like that.
BF cares about things and has passions for things. He takes care of all the animals his child wanted and was the midwife for his dog. My ex would never want to be bothered with that. It would be extra work for him. He will go places with me, take classes with me, brain storm ideas with me. He is attentive. He is on time for things and very responsible. He is not a guy that is aching to go out and party with his friends. (My ex). He actually likes being home with his partner or kid. He is pretty independent and will act on his own instead of follow his peers. He’s more the type to criticize his peers if he disagrees not follow them (My ex had a few close friends who got divorced and then he followed in suit). We do laugh and converse well (but i can pretty much hold conversations with most people)
A big one for me is that he wants and values a relationship and partnership. I trust that he’s not a cheater. He is not like a lot of the guys on here and probably out there in dating world that are just looking for a person to bring to weddings and have over on the weekend. I recognize that.
The nagging and negativity is the thing I can’t take. My mom is like that as well - she constantly notices and b!tches about everything and everyone, as if she knows it all and it invokes strong reactions in me. it annoys me, makes me want to argue and makes me not trust her opinions even if some of them are right. My mom has recently changed a bit as she saw how well the positive reinforcement has worked on my son.
