I'm not surprised you didn't find anything when you snooped. Again, I think you were given a gift where your W is giving you one more chance to get your $hit together.
Now the key for you is to get your abandonment issues until control. People with these issues are usually very jealous and needy.
Listen and validate in MC and be prepared that you are probably going to hear things you will not like and not necessarily agree with. Don't get defensive. Say things like "I can understand while you feel this way".
