Hi hope, sorry I must have posted at the exact same time you did yesterday! You're right, this is so helpful to see your behaviour and the marriage from an external position. My IC seems to just want to tell me that it's ok to have feelings. Well, yes it is, but being flooded is no good to anyone.
Thanks for the breathing tips, I don't think there's enough education on how we can help calm ourselves down. This ought to be taught in primary school. I have a really good link somewhere, I'll see if I can find it. I think my dh has always suffered from anxiety and panic, whereas until a few years ago I haven't really got flooded, just angry and not knowing what was going on. I can see better now what a terrible place he must have been going to.
This morning I am tired, feeling pessimistic (not like me, I am so optimistic most of the time) and actually not really looking forward to seeing dh later. Hopefully we will have a nice time, I would actually just like to go for a walk and watch some TV or something calm like that. A bit of normality would be nice because I feel like this week has been a rollercoaster. This GAL stuff is tiring...
