Brave Little Gerda Faces the Cutting Winds

[Gerda]

Hi, Yail -- I don't know if you have followed my sitch but i am in year 6 of my stand and my H has never left the house. My H lives with us and sleeps on the couch in our apartment, so when he is home there is no way to not see him except hiding in my room. I have tried many times to go dark and it looks like I am being sullen when I do that in this environment. I am completely dark as far as phone and texts except for emergencies and this recent blip. And I lead my own life without telling him really anything about me and the kids. But in the house there is interaction. The kids are much happier if I am friendly and chat with him. And I just thought I would like to tell him I need space because he really won't give me any. I thought it might make it clearer or he might respect the boundary more.