Well done Gordie. You really are showing exemplary patience and kindness.
I do believe the MLCer has to grow up; that is the crux of this process. The LBS learns and grows first and then demonstrates. Continue to show her the lessons - kindness, patience, compassion, happiness, love, joy, trust, faith, intimacy, and forgiveness. That is the beam that shines from the lighthouse, that is what shines from you.
To me she is at a point where she is watching your lead, she wants to follow. Getting closer together is going to bring more to the surface and she will be looking for a trusting partner. Be compassionate and forgiving. She needs that, and so do you.
Remain slow, steady, and cautious. She is responding and greatly it sounds like.
Trust and forgiveness my friend. Tall orders indeed, I get it. However, it has to start somewhere and sometime. Why not now? It is just a start, and this is going to take some time. Be fearless and lower your walls some more. Risk your heart, it is so worth it.
Keep with the exemplary patience and kindness.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
