When you do decide to date, what characteristics will you be looking for?
At the top of my list was honesty. Do you want to know how many woman I had to sift through to find this? Dating is a whole process on it's own.
I chose not to use the apps. I put myself out in the world and just enjoyed everyone. Enjoyed everyone's stories. Dinner out by myself. Concerts. Hiking, Biking, dog parks. When you get healthy, people will be attracted to you. I was hit on in front of my Xwife at church.
What do you want your story to be? What characteristics will you be projecting out there?
If your spouse is actively involved in a secret affair, the foundation of that relationship will most likely crumble. When that happens, will you have gone through enough personal growth and have the skills to help guide them back to a healthy relationship with you? Will dating help or hinder your path?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712