Do you want to go? If you do, then go. You won't be going for your W, you would be going for your son. I know it's hard when detaching to know how to interact, but use objectivity when making your decisions. Take your emotions out of the decisions and it will help you determine if you are making the right choice and at the same time not hurting your detaching.
Example: W-Not Sure if you want to go?
Wolf-Thanks to himself, by stepping back and pulling his emotions out. Questions to ask yourself: Is the party for my W? I'm I going for my W or son? Will my son like it if I go?
Answers: No, Son, Yes
Then go!!!! Don't miss out on memories with your son to teach your W a lesson. You won't ever get that time back.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.