SVD, do you have any evidence of the A or are you basing that on things looking "funny" when she FT'd you? I'm not sure that's enough to hang your hat on. Normally we say not to snoop but if you really must know then get serious about it and hire a PI. Once you've verified it's true, then stop snooping because you found out what you needed to. I'll just warn you that if W finds out you are snooping she will go deeper undercover with her activities and it'll be even harder to find anything out. And she will more than likely deny, deny, deny.
