The thing about dating before divorce is simple: you're married. I agree with everything Davide and Maika are saying but then I'm think if I was dating someone who is still technically married I wouldn't feel like we were on solid ground. It's a complication that I wouldn't want to deal with if I were single and looking for a partner.
But yes, many people, even DB'ers are using dating to to cover up their pain. But ultimately it's their choice to make.
I pretty much agree with all this. Reason why I will not seriously consider a serious LTR (or even casual dating) before a D is finalized—I still feel (some) loyalty / exclusivity with W, even if she doesn’t feel the same way, even if some feel she really doesn’t deserve that from me anymore upon BD, or even if some believe that the MR is toast upon BD.
Like I’ve said before (on this thread, and on my own thread), I’m sure the attention, affection and intimacy (physical / emotional / even sexual) at times all sound really great and very appealing given my sitch, but at the end of the day....
I don’t want for myself another bad sitch later on by jumping into another woman’s arms (emotionally or literally). I don’t want to use another person, I don’t want someone else to feel used, and if the tables were reversed, I wouldn’t want to feel (or be) used. I don’t want to be another person’s Plan B, and I wouldn’t want another to feel that way, or have them be the reality for them.
