Hope, the distance is fine...it's actually preferred. If I were you, I would maintain what you have been doing. However, if he engages, be upbeat, happy, engaged. Ask him questions and validate, listen, see if you can detect any emotion. Don't try to fix anything or plan what you will say next. Stay the course and don't make any big changes.
The phrase here that it is a marathon and not a sprint has plenty of meanings. In a marathon, if you are halfway there and you all of a sudden switch to a faster pace, you may wear yourself out and not make it all the way to the finish. Stay the course and no big changes. You can do this!
Thank you Miler....Patience needs to be on my goals list, it's something I have always struggled with. See, he did try to engage both last night and this morning and both times I was just very quiet, one word answers, and almost uninterested (protecting myself). Hopefully tonight will be an opportunity for me to be upbeat, happy and engaged. I pretty much just shut him down which I don't want to do. I miss him, I miss his friendship and I want to ensure I don't stray too far into detachment yet that I don't care
ILYBINILWY - 11/19/18 Got Better - 12/20/18 Counseling - Jan and Feb MIL issues - Jan BD - 2/13/2019 IHS - 2/14/2019
