thanks for posting on my thread. I thought I'd drop in here and check out your situation. It sounds very very hard. I guess we're at opposite ends of things because I'm not the distancer, he is, and he's still too angry and afraid to take some of the emotional responsibility for coming forward in the space that has opened up between us since I stopped pursuing (which admittedly, is very recent and has been inconsistent).
Anyway - I wanted to ask, have you read the book The Solo Partner? It has a section on this, and on emotional reactivity, and I found them both very useful and you might too.
I hope you have a good day and thank you for posting on my thread.
