Grace, I'm seeing some progress in you. You are feeling down about some things and questioning others, but you are able to see the reasons and the answers, even if you don't like them. Venting is great; wallowing is not. You are seeing the path forward and that is great. Give yourself a nice pat on the back. Keep working through your stages, asking your questions, and working toward to the big, IT JUST DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT. You got this girl.