Some 180s:

Not drinking
When kids get upset instead of being short or scream, I sit them down and just talk to them
I used to kiss W ass and do caretaker stuff like wash all dishes, laundry, etc., I will do the kids dishes but not help her for ones she dirties
used to go feed the family bunny for her so she didn’t have to do it, don’t any more
I read now and used to not
I am a very energized person always in the move or can’t sit down long. J am now taking more time to sit down and not do that
I am going out one of the weekend nights, forcing myself to GAL. I usually am a very quiet and at home kind of guy. Being more social able and messaging friends to do things
I used to just like a post on Facebook but I am showing more emotion or thoughts that I would used to just hold in. Such as this article that someone posted about living and loving with the fear of abandonment. I actually responded to it and felt good getting my emotions out.
I am actually talking about my personal life more at work with coworkers that I usually just keep private. Not all details but just expressing my emotions more.
Taking my kids out of the hiuse more. Took them to park yesterday since it was in the 50s here.
I am detaching better today. Smiling more and being more happy around the house. I am listening to the NMMNG on audiobook and it is definitely me to a T.

Dropping the rope means quit Having a leash on her to pull her in the direction I want her to go. Let her go down her own path to find herself and focus on me.

Last edited by AnthonyA; 03/01/19 01:33 AM.

T: 17 M:10
Me: 38 W: 36
S:9 D:7 D:7
ILYBNILWY - 1/29/19
Affair Confirmed: 2/9/19
Divorce Filed: 5/9/2019