"Suspended my profile on most of the sites ..." how many sites are you on ?!?!?
Seriously, do what feels right. Do it honestly and you will come out the other side with a clear conscience. There is an interesting discussion on dating post D which Steve started but, when all is said and done, only you know what is right for you. Your moral compass is sound and you will do the right thing.
I can't give much advice on dating sites. My only experience is when I put up the fake profile of a tree - which, strangely got a lot of responses - but I will say that there are nice people out there. I have a lot of male friends who I go out with, mainly lunches and drinks (as these are less like dates) and we have fun. Conversation generally flows and there is a lot of laughter. They know my sitch, know that I still hold out hopes for my marriage, and are respectful of that. They do think I am an idiot though.
I now see myself occasionally looking at someone and thinking "he's not bad" and "maybe in another life". Maybe there is hope for me yet
Sorry to hear re the separation agreement. It still breaks my heart that anyone can walk away without at least trying to save a marriage. But it is what it is and they are what they are. Pride, guilt and shame. Easier to reinvent then face the consequences of your actions.
Not sure about the Grizzly Adams look - maybe it's American thing? Most of the men I meet are overly well groomed. I do work in London though.
