I'm definitely in an interesting place. Her BD involved that I should be pursuing her more. My 180 is against basic DB principles. However, she also recognized that space is a good thing now. If she wanted to be close right now, I have no doubt she would be touching, initiating ILYs, etc. That's her way of showing love for the most part. I think I need to mirror her behavior. I slid in an ILY yesterday before I left. She slid one in last night. Maybe I should slide one in before bed tonight. If she exhibits some casual touching, maybe I should give some casual touching. It's not going to be an "all-in" all-out thing.
Also, to be clear... I am in NO WAY cold or distant. I am always warm, upbeat, and engaged when we do communicate. I also agree that the space and "distance" we have is perfect for allowing us to each work on ourselves in space with a small tether to each other. I do want to be able to detach thought. I think this is SUPER critical, even if we are a stable happily married couple. I am the KING of allowing my thoughts and feelings/mood be based on how she acts or engages in the R. Totally unhealthy for me and the R.
Me: 44 Her: 42 T: 22, M: 20 D:18, S:16, S:11 Sep: 6 months in 2002 Sep again: March 15, 2015 (5 months) WAW talk again: January 21, 2019
