I don't constantly monitor for that reason so that she doesn't feel "watched"...she has to gain my trust, she said she knows this.
This is huge. I don't think my W would have committed back to the MR if I was constantly monitoring her. Dropping the rope, being differentiated, means that you don't have to monitor constantly. Plus, do you really want her behaving SOLELY because she is afraid to get caught, or do you want her to want to not misbehave on her own?
My IC told me to stop monitoring. That the truth has a way of being discovered all on its own.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
