I get that but she is moving forward with the divorce. So can I not believe her when she says she wants a divorce? We are going to mediation for the third time tonight. It doesn’t look like she is scared. I wish she was maybe she would have second thoughts. So should I believe the things she is saying?
It doesnt mean that she doesnt believe those things right now. The things she says may be 100% true. The point is more that they might not ALWAYS be true forever.
Imagine finishing a big breakfast and then saying something like "Im so full, I dont think Ill ever eat again" That could be a completely legit feeling. Does that mean you should throw all of the food you have in your house away? Of course not. Same thing applies here. She may say things like "I was never happy and you were the reason so I need to get away from you and divorce you and blah blah blah." We arent saying that she is outright lying to you. She may even believe it 100%. The point is more that you shouldnt base your actions and decisions and emotions on the things she is saying.
For me, it was a lot easier to just assume it was all lies/crazy talk than to try to parse through things and figure out what was actionable.
