Every single one of us on this board could have been a better partner. It still blows my mind that out of all the useless courses they have in school/college that don't have anything to teach you how to be a better partner. Accept that you could have been better, learn from it and let it go.
What I think you should focus on with your ex is gaining respect from her. One thing that has always been obvious in your sitch is that she doesn't respect you. Once you can obtain respect, things will slowly change in the dynamic of your relationship.
Forward no more backwards.
Originally Posted by LH19
I don't think there is any question that you are a great father.
Respect starts with how you allow others/her to treat you. No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don't allow them to.
I would start with getting back to the basics. No contact unless about kids or finances. Answer only questions with yes or no answers. Then work on how she talks to you.
W: Hurt (with tone to her voice) "your'e doing it wrong" H: W, please don't talk to me that way W: what way? H: in that tone W: I'm not H: please don't do it again (walk away)
You have to get over the fear that what you do or do not say will change anything!
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