Whirlwind of Hurt 7

[Twofeet]

TF,

I think you handled it fine other than I wouldn't have brought up at all what she doing. Your still attached but that is normal due to the speed of your BD to D. In time when she has those melt downs you will shrug your shoulders and get a laugh out of it.

I was also deemed as selfish in my marriage but a lot of it was because I always took the lead on things we were going to do and never was given any push back from her. Then when things got bad it was always "we always did what you wanted to do".

LH,

Part of me just wanted to know in case it was a serious need/favor worth breaking plans for. However, you are correct part of it is that there is still some attachment to her. I was introduced to a nice looking woman yesterday, I guess as a vetting out plan by a gal I know. She told me I should consider dating this woman. I had that bug stuck in my head all day yesterday until my XW threw her fit on the phone. I then realized while I am not attached at the hip to XW anymore, I still am attached to her. That whole tirade was a bit of a reality check and further pushing me to that tipping point. I am not ready to see other women. I am getting closer, but still not over XW yet. I look forward to the day when XW has a meltdown and I just say look when I have the kids I do my job, so when you have them just do you job.

XW says I was selfish in the MR, but its total BS. This is just something she used to get her way with me. She even tried leveraging this against me through her folks. Eventually, that stopped working on them as they could see the truth, and her mom called her out a few times on it. XW wanted me to take the lead so she wouldn't have to deal with it, unless it went against what she wanted. Then it became how she does everything and I am just selfish. The more time goes on and the more I look back on our MR I wonder what the heck happened to her.