Keeping the faith ... finding me (Part III)

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It hurts that I can be friendlier to strangers than to the man I married.

I know it does, but right now I'm sure you understand why it hurts and why it's easier to be nicer to strangers...Sorry!

I am not sure how he expected me to act when I saw it. I am pretty sure my lukewarm response did not register well.

I really think he wanted to connect with you, though he wants that without commitment right now. Terrible, but you did the right thing. How can you give in a just do this halfway? That would only kill you inside. So you do what you can do, and do your best to live your own life and not be in pain all the time. I can tell you it does get better in time, but even at the 1 year mark for me I still feel pain. That's OK. And I think about your sitch, you have kids, you've been together longer...it may take more time than it takes me. But again, that's OK. Let go of what you can't control and put that energy in positive places like you have been. I think you're doing quite well.