So when I am told to let her go and leave. Does that mean to just drop the rope and detach and let time and patience prevail. Try to not let her actions and words bother me. Just live my life and support my kids?
It is difficult but I am trying to GAL and do 180s. I am reading the DR book and then I will move onto the DB book. I guess the good thing she is doing the IC and I am doing my own so I can work on myself and she can work on herself. It is just difficult when she says she wants to be separated and be single and independent but live together and such. I am not snooping, begging, pleading, appeasing, etc any more. I will just continue GAL and trying to find hobbies.
Like I said, I enjoy doing home improvement projects. Do you think I can still do my projects to keep my busy. I find the home improvement projects calm me. Making or doing woodworking out in the garage.
Anthony, again please step back and relax. Yes dropping the rope and detaching and let time and patience have their place. That doesn't require you or her moving out. Detachment = not letting her action and words bother you, or have any affect on you (positively too). And yes make your kids the priority and live life.
Yes this is difficult. This is why we try to, early in our sitches, to push things forward for good or bad. LBSs in limbo hate it. But limbo is the gift of time!! She could have, on BD, instead of ILYBNILWY could have just packed her bags and left. It has happened. So see limbo as the chance to show her your detachment, your 180s and GAL!
And yes, do home improvement projects. Detachment and GAL do not require leaving the house. But work on detachment. It will set you free!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
